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Wild man 

Sometimes God places someone in your life that changes it forever. That someone for us was wild man.   

We received the call for him while we were on a long weekend getaway. As stated in an earlier post we were told he would only be with us for the weekend while his grandmother got her place in order so we agreed to take him in.  We loaded up our things, checked out of our hotel early, jumped on the motorcycle and headed back home.  We arrived at the house about 20 mins before he arrived.  The two workers got out and brought me a very tiny, sickly looking baby boy.  One of the workers even made the comment “I hope he makes it through the weekend”, he looked that bad. We exchanged the necessary information and they drove off and I carried him into the house.  Two months old and he had already been through so much but he was safe now.

He was born between 30 and 31 weeks,no one knows for sure, so he was a preemie. He spent his first weeks in the NICU and then went home with his birth mom. Things got bad one night and his parents started fighting. Bio dad walked off and mom took it out on little guy.  In an act of rage he was thrown across the room bouncing off the wall before landing safely on a dirty cot.  Thankfully a volunteer walked by as birth mom walked out safely got him out and called for help. That’s how he came to me after being checked out. Heartbreaking.

The weekend turned into a week and the week turned into two still no sign of grandma. I finally got word that she would be picking him up in two days and agreed to have his stuff ready.  We still had the girls at this point and three under 2 was a bit more than I expected.

The morning his grandmother was scheduled to pick him up things took a turn for the worse. His breathing was very labored and you could tell something was not right. I quickly got him to the ER where the doctors started working with him.  I called the office and told them that the grandmother could not pick him up because he was in the ER fighting for his life.  They said they would get the message to his worker and if I needed to go I could just leave him there.  By the time his worker called back, he was doing some better but still not doing great.  She told me she had talked with the grandmother and that she (the grandma)had decided against taking him, and that she would look for another home for him.  I looked over at this precious little boy fighting with everything in him to survive and my heart melted. How could I not let him stay he had no one?   I told her he would stay with us no need to look for another family.  I called my husband and tell him we are keeping him after he gets out of the hospital, he says awesome.  Two weeks later we lost the girls to their new family.

God works in mysterious ways. Wild man, now known as JR, is part of our beautiful chaos along with three of his half siblings who we would not have if we had not taken him in. I don’t know how we would have made it through loosing the girls if we had not had him to focus on.  God placed him with us because He know we needed him. He has been through a lot in his time with us. His first year was filled with countless court hearings, visitations, doctor appointments and surgeries. He was diagnosed with autism and sensory processing disorder at the age of 3.  We were told he may never walk, or talk but through God’s grace he is not only walking he is running and climbing just as any child would. He can now say around 100 words thanks to his awesome preschool teachers,aids,and Speech therapists. He has done things that’s doctors thought were not possible thanks to his OT’S and he has a love for music thanks to his Music therapist.  God is so good.  JR has opened our eyes to a new way of looking at the world. He loves unconditionally and loves with his whole heart. He has taught me how to be more patient and how to laugh. We rejoice in the little things instead of focusing on the big. He makes my heart smile every time I see his face. 

And on a side note, we met with his grandmother once for a visit. She is a sweet lady. She felt that with him being as sick as he was/is he would have a better live with younger parents instead of an older grandma. She did it out of love, so please no hate towards her. 

God places people on our lives at just the right time. Some may stay for a few days, some a few months, others for a life time. Regardless of the time it is the time God intended them to be there. Enjoy your time with them embrace it for we are not promised tomorrow with them.
From our beautiful chaos to yours have a fantastic day 

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I am a stay at home mom to 7 wonderfully crazy children. I have two biological children and my husband and I have adopted five little ones through foster care. Our children are 22, 19, 7, 6, 4, 4 and 1. Life is always interesting but I would not change a thing.

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