A few days ago I went on an adventure with my two three year old boys and baby girl. Ok so it really wasn’t an adventure it was a trip to the pediatrician. But in all fairness it is a new pediatrician in a new location and I was alone with three of my Littles. Just them, me and a new doctors office what could possibly go wrong?
Our journey started getting out of the Yukon. After finding a spot to park I managed to unload the children according to how and where they would be placed going into the building. First out was Eli, he is my runner so he was placed in the stroller. Next up baby girl, I pulled on my oh so stylish mom carrying baby sling and load her on my chest. Last but certainly not least comes Alex. He is normally a good boy for me while we are out so he was holding my hand helping push the stroller. One, two, three kids check. We are all out of the car with a diaper bag, wallet and bag of toys for entertainment in tow. I am sure we looked like a hot mess walking across that parking lot.
We get to the door and I am trying my best to open the door and not drop a baby or have a child run off when I see a teenager out of the corner of my eye standing two feet from the door on her phone. Her mom looks up from her phone and says ” Help her get the door” Then looks at me and groans “Kids these days” I thank them both even though the teen had already zoned back out on the phone and the mom was still fussing about how it would not kill her to be nice every now and then.
This got me thinking. We live in a world so high tech and full of social media we have forgotten how to treat people when we are face to face. I don’t want my kids growing up not knowing the basics so I came up with a list of things I as their mom need to make sure they know how to do. It’s my job to prepare them for the world. If I don’t who will? Here are 10 simple things all kids can learn to do:
1. Open the door for others ~ it takes a few seconds but can help someone more than you realize
2. Smile ~ a simple smile can change the way someone sees their day going. Besides it takes less muscles to smile than it does to frown so smile at everyone. It will even make you feel better.
3. Make eye contact when talking to someone ~ my grandpa always said you could tell a lot about a person by the way they looked at you when they talked to you. It shows that your listening and that you care about what they are saying
4. Say Please and Thank you ~ these two are a must if we want the world to be better place. We have to be kind to one another
5. Be patient ~ all good things come to those who wait. That coffee at McDonalds will still taste just as good in 5 minutes as it would right now. If God intended on you having it now you would not be waiting in the drive thru. Wait it out
6. Don’t assume you are entitled to anything~ today’s kids, mine include, seem to have this attitude that they speak it and it shall be done. News flash you have to earn it!! I was not given things just because it was a Tuesday and a bird flew in the sky. NO I HAD TO…..WORK FOR IT. Guess what? My kids do to, and most days they dislike me for it, but one day they will understand and love me for it…….one day.
7. Forgive others forgive yourself~ live is to short to hold grudges. Been angry all the time can lead to depression and a list of other medical problems. Ask yourself is this going to matter in 5 years? 10 years? Or 20 years? Even if it’s hard to forgive the other person do it anyway you deserve to be free of the stress. Forgive yourself for life’s daily battles.
8. Be a helping hand ~ There are so many people in need right now. We need to be the hands and feet of Jesus. We need to care for His people. If you are able to donate your time or money do so. If you can open your home to foster a child do so. If you can buy food for the local food back or send clothing to the flood victims do so. If you can’t do any of those things then pray. Pray for the sick, the homeless, our nation, our leaders, our cities and states. Prayer warriors are always needed
9. Love~ love your kids, your spouse, your family and friends. Love the grumpy neighbor in the house across the road. Love Jesus with all your heart. Let him guide you through the day. I personally want to love Him so much that His light shines through me and others know that He lives in me through my life. Love deeply because tomorrow is not promised
10. Follow the Rules/ Respect elders ~ we have rules for a reason. They are in place to keep us safe and free from harm. We must respect those that give us rules to follow such as: teachers, our parents, our government, our pastor, officers, bus drivers, our boss, or anyone that is in charge. (This one is for my 6 yr old. We are struggling hard with this pray for us)
I am sure there are more we could add to the list, but it’s a start. I know that mom meant well. I am sure she was taught to open doors, stand up and let older ladies sit down and don’t talk with your mouth full when she was younger. But I think we all have skipped over some of the every basic things for our kids to turn out to be decent human beings. I don’t want to raise a bunch of selfish, bratty, unapprecuative kids who don’t know how to be kind to someone else. No, I want to raise good kids. Godly kids.Kind loving kids that understand money does not grow on trees, and they are ok with that because they don’t mind a little hard work.
.from our beautiful chaos to yours enjoy your long holiday weekend with your little loves.