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The Little things

What really matters to you in life? Is it how big your home is or how fancy your car is? Does your love of money or expensive trips make you who you are? There is no right or wrong answer every person is different. Its perfectly fine to have a nice car and to go on long extended trips.  As for me what really matters has nothing to do with wealth or with fame. It’s all about the little things.

A few nights ago our son JR was playing cars in his room, when all of the sudden he comes running down the stairs screaming with delight.  I ran to him to see what was going on and he tells me “Mommy mommy MY NAME is on the wall” He graps my hand and pulls me up the stairs. He pushes the door open to show me the sign that has hung over his bed for the last four years. On this sign his name is spelled out using Disney Cars characters. The difference that day, was that he has been working on his name at school……and he finally realized what the sign said all on his own. Autism will not define him. It’s only part of him. The smile on his face warmed my heart. It’s the little things.

Our youngest recently turned one. She is now walking along the sides of the couches, the pack in play, and anything she can use to pull herself up to stand beside.  Yesterday while holding onto the couch she decided to turn towards me and let go. She took one whole step before she fell to her knees, but the smile on her face was saying “Did you see that mom?”  It won’t be long now before she’s walking all over the place.  Little things.

Today we spent the day with my sister in law and her husband. They traveled down to see our new house. The look on the kids faces when they walked through the door was priceless. For five solid hours my sister in law and brother in law played “scary ghosts”, pushed the kids on the swings, took tours of all the vehicles (JR loved to inspect cars when people come to visit), wrestled with the boys and held baby girl (until she pooped in her diaper)   In my kids eyes their aunt and uncle are the best thing to happen since sliced bread. It was nice having family down. We don’t get to see them enough. We didn’t do anything big we just hung out around the house enjoying each other’s company. We talked about upcoming holiday plans and about our older two kids who are away at college. We talked football and NASCAR and about what has been going on in our lives. Just having adults to talk to was wonderful, conversations with kids under six are limited to cartoons and toddler songs.  It’s the little things.

I may never be a millionaire. I may never own a beach front mansion or my own yacht. But I’m perfectly okay with that. I would not trade my life for anything. I love late night cuddles on the couch with husband watching football. I love listening to our youngest three year old yell ” I winning I winning” while playing his video game. I loved being band mom, taekwondo mom, and color guard mom while our older kids where younger and look forward to doing similar activities with our new little ones. Life is all about what you make of it. You can focus on the material things or you can focus on the things that are far more valuable. Give me forhead kisses and sweet “I love you bunches mommy” over a trip to Paris any day.  

Foster care opened up a wonderful new life for us. We have so much to be thankful for. I will forever be grateful that God placed these five precious babies in our lives and loved us enough to allow us to become their forever family.  

So the next time you are having a really hard day at work or you and your spouse are not seeing eye to eye remember to look for the little things in your life that make you happy. It could be as simple as holding someone’s hand, an unexpected lunch date, a home cooked meal, late night cuddles on the couch or whatever puts a smile on your face.  Life is to short to be unhappy all the time. A day can seem to take forever but a day is made up of 86,400 seconds. It takes thousands of little things (seconds) to make up the bigger thing (the day)  Life is the same way. It is made up of all the little things, not just big moments. Don’t forget to enjoy the daily blessings in life.

From our beautiful chaos to yours enjoy all the “little things” God has placed in your path. Your life will be fuller and richer if you do.

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I am a stay at home mom to 7 wonderfully crazy children. I have two biological children and my husband and I have adopted five little ones through foster care. Our children are 22, 19, 7, 6, 4, 4 and 1. Life is always interesting but I would not change a thing.

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