Most kids have a favorite toy or blanket they use to comfort them when they are upset or hurt. Stuffed animals and soft silky blankets can make all the wrongs of this world right again in the eyes of a child. For my son it’s not a favorite toy or a blanket, it’s a pair of Disney’s Lightning McQueen pajamas.
A few months before we moved one of his former preschool teachers, a friend of mine, stopped by my house for a visit with our wild man as she did from time to time. She came baring gifts: toy trucks, balls, airplanes, shirts, and a few pairs of pajamas that had belonged to her boys but they had decided my boys could use them more. My boys were in heaven.
Up until that point wild man never wore pajamas to bed. He has many sensory issues and most days clothing and him don’t get along well. His wardrobe is limited very limited. His teachers and I worked together to find clothes he could tolerate long enough for school. Usually his shoes and socks and even his shirt was off before we walk in the door of our home after school. Weekends and evenings you could find him running around the house in a pull up only. That is until he discovered his “magical pajamas”
When Mrs Julie brought the boys their new treasures the boys were of course excited for the toys, my boys never get excited over clothes. It wasn’t until later that evening when I was going through the clothes that wild man picked up the Disney Cars pj’s. He held them up and looked at them and motioned for me to put them on him. So I did. He sat there feeling them, smelling them and hugging himself in them. And for the first time ever he went to bed and slept in pajamas. The next day he came in from school ran to the dirty clothes and grabbed the pajamas out and put them on. He has worn them everyday since. As soon as he gets in from school his school clothes come off and his magical oh so comforting pajamas go on.
The problem with wearing the same pajamas everyday is trying to keep them from wearing out. Thankfully they were a little big for him when he got them so he has been able to wear then for a while. But a little while back I started to worry. What happens if he out grows the pajamas? What happens if they tear while he plays? What happens if they simply wearout from being washed so often? So I started looking for an extra pair or two in different sizes so he could have them as he grew. That’s even I ran into a problem a big problem. The pajamas had belonged to Mrs Julie’s son when he was small so they are about 8 years old. They are no longer carried in stores. So I started buying similar pj’s hoping they would work. I’ve bought ones made from the same material, ones with Disney Cars characters,and ones that are the same color green……Nothing worked. Bad news for wild man but at least our younger boys are hooked up in the pajama department for years to come. I don’t know what it is about these pajamas but they are the only ones he will wear. So after a few months (and a few hundred dollars) of buying new pajamas I took to Facebook to enlisted the help of my friends on the search. Within a few hours I had several people looking for these pajamas. I even sent an email to Disney asking if they had any that I was not looking for a hand out but that I was willing to pay for them if they had them. They replied back with ” We are sorry but we no longer make these please follow the link to check out our new design” I own the new design, it’s not what he needs. I’ve looked in fabric shops for the material, I have a friend that said she could make him more if we could find it, no luck. I checked Amazon and Esty no luck. Then I searched Ebay. And there I found….. one pair size 6. So I bought them. I figure he could grow into them next year. The real test would be would he wear them? The day they came in I quickly washed them and took them to his room. When he came in he ran up saw them and….. put them on!!!! These are not from Mrs Julie but they are the same in every other way. Why has he choose this particular pattern? This particular color? Who knows. But it’s what he likes. These pajamas give him a sense of security and comfort I can not explain. I am grateful that he has found that in something. I am grateful Mrs Julie gave them to him. I am thankful Ebay had one pair. What will we do in a year or two when neither pair fit him? I honestly have no idea. For now we will just wait and see what happens. We adjust to what works for him. And for now it’s 8 year old Disney Cars pajamas.
From our beautiful chaos to yours find and take comfort in the small things: an old shirt, the smell of a favorite perfume, wrap up in a blanket from a dear friend, or cuddle on the couch in your magical pajamas and just take in the joys of life.